Choose The Best And Leave The Rest

We met new people every day.  Some of them become a part of our life while some fly away.  Similarly, some of their qualities also become a part of our life.  We achieve what we focus on.  So, be aware of selecting the best and leaving the rest.

Who is good and who is bad:

We are always quick to judge another person.  We all have our own parameters that we expect others to meet.  Often those parameters come from our very own behavior and characteristics.  We label others wrong or bad if they don't pass our parameters.  If we get up early in the morning, others should do the same.  If he doesn't, is he wrong?

How to deal with differences:

When we see a big difference between our way of thinking and theirs, we avoid them.  We no longer like to live with them.  This is not always possible as they may be your partner or family member.

How can we deal with people who are different from us?

First, it's important to remember that everyone here is unique.  Each has its own values and virtues.  You cannot classify them as wrong or right based on your perception.  As William Shakespeare said, “Nothing is right or bad, but idea makes it so.”

Just due to the fact a person thinks otherwise would not suggest they’re bad.  He is right according to his belief.  You cannot step into his shoes and see all the situations.  Also, we cannot change everyone (actually anyone) around us.  What can we do then?

Why focus on goodness:

We attract whatever we focus on in life.  The same is true of virtues and habits.  If we focus on the other person's good qualities, it becomes part of us.  If we focus on bad habits, we are only attracted to bad habits.  Suppose you are walking in the garden in the morning.  It's a terrible season.  There is a scent of plant life inside the air.  You are having fun.

Suddenly, you see a pile of garbage around the corner.  Your attention turns from the flowers to the garbage.  The first option is to clean it if possible.  Another option is to accept it as it is and refocus your attention on the flowers.

However, mostly we focus on the third option.  We start paying attention to the smell of garbage.  We stop enjoying the good and hate the bad.  You may still find the other person enjoying the garden but now it is difficult for you.

Focus on the flowers and you'll start enjoying yourself again.  So, if you focus on the flower, you will find the fragrance.  Similarly, if you focus on the good of people, you will find good people around you.  As a result, you will also absorb their goodness.

Choose the best and leave the rest:

Suppose, we gave a bucket mix of flowers and thorns.  We have a choice to choose one, what will we choose?  Of course we will pick flowers.  Regardless of age/position/job/family, everyone has certain qualities.  Everyone can train you something if you want to.  It is your choice whether you want to take good or bad.

Many humans who’ve bad habit of drinking, smoking constantly blame others.  He said he inherited it from his family/friends.  If you ask them what good thing you learned from them, they won't have an answer.  For every good and bad, we have a choice.  We can either leave/ignore it or take it.  Be wise.

Be the best among your family or friends:

We must strive for excellence.  Self-improvement is a continuous process.  Focus on the things others are good at.  Appreciate their qualities.  It will even make your dating more healthy.

Appreciate their skills.  If they find that you like something in them, they will love to teach you.  Often our family and friends are made up of different qualities.  It is rare to find a person who has all the qualities you are looking for.  However, we can become such a person by taking the best.  It will feel great when someone says that you have all the qualities that your friends/family have.  So, remember the simple formula: